Thank u god for making me what I am
Every now and than, we all feel compelled to thank our /god/stars/guardian angels/gaon mata/tribal lord/etc etc. for multitudes of reasons. These reasons could be as trivial as a smile from someone u have a crush on or maybe ur boss/teacher/prof/client being on leave or lets say u got unexpectedly higher rating/marks/offer or any such thing.
But today I realized one more reason to thank my XYZ (fill in based on ur beliefs), I realized being a guy with very limited social skills is saving me from many awkward questions life might throw at me, these questions in turn will put me in a moral dilemma. its not that I am afraid of any sort of moral dilemma (I have a fairly robust moral system, which only once in a blue moon gets overridden by factors hugely affecting convenience).
So what exactly is this moral dilemma I am talking about, you see I believe making a friend is more or less similar to taking on a liability, u cant just make a new friend and forget old ones. So than what?? what happens is that as a result of this, as time passes set of friends gets bigger and bigger. However even though we all understand that one can not spend same amount of time with his friends through different phases of life, still each one of them consumes a little amount of time, energy, efforts and some space on already limited hard drive of ur mind.
So u will ask how exactly being a guy with limited social skills is saving me a moral dilemma, u see I was going through my fb page and suddenly one thing caught my attention. This thing was unexpectedly high number of female friend suggestion (all of them having quite a decent number of common friends already). I asked myself, what have I done lately to change the social web structure around me so drastically???
Well I decided to snoop around a little and before long I realized that recently there has been a huge influx of new students in my most recent college, and by one way or another many of them have find there way into friend lists of my batchmates. Now it got me thinking, what if 10 or 20 of these females have tried wriggling there way into my friend-list as well??
That would have been most trying thing for me, attraction of befriending 10-20 extremely attractive young females would have been pitted against reality of coping up with already overflowing fb friend list. I am not sure how many of you have already experienced something of this sort in past. but nonetheless, to those who don't find it a matter of concern, I must express my feelings of extreme awe. I also want to give out a salute resulting from heart felt admiration to those of you who are not only managing these situations but dare I say even find it desirable to keep on expanding these complex social webs.
Now why do I feel lucky to be a guy with limited social skills??? well I am not going to spell that out here,,, either u get my point or there is no point at all,,, but if u have felt sth even remotely similar to what I have tried to describe here,,, please share your experience, tips, stories related with those dealing... :)
posted by Kishanpuria at
9:12 PM
3 Comments:
>So what exactly is this moral dilemma I am talking
>about, you see I believe making a friend is more or
>less similar to taking on a liability, u cant just
>make a new friend and forget old ones.
I think a bit differently than you about friendship. I might be accused of not valuing friendship or compromising moral standards for convenience, but here's my stand.
Friendship is not a liability, it is neither avoided nor it is chosen. It is a bond that you form with your fellow beings, the people that you spend time with, the people whose company you enjoy because of unknown reasons and vice versa. But when you move on your own paths, you reach new places, meet new people, you do make new friends. Making new friends do not amount to forgetting old friends. Remember how the world used to work before orkut, facebook and phones. We remembered our friends from 5th class, but could not stay in touch. This doesn't mean we forgot them. The day our paths will cross we will still know who they were and possibly we would still be the same old friends we were back then.
"However even though we all understand that one can not spend same amount of time with his friends through different phases of life, still each one of them consumes a little amount of time, energy, efforts and some space on already limited hard drive of ur mind"
We seems to be using different angles to look at the same thing...
Agree to what kishanpuria is saying, amount of space that a friend occupies keeps on changing with time. One shouldn't feel guilty in decreasing or increasing the space that a friend acquires. Now there are multiple factors which attribute to increase/decrease, like job profile, proximity, age etc. It depends how much friendly or social a person is, the hard disc space keeps on varying. Kishanpuria feels that his space is bit lower compared to others, but how he utilizes it is more important.
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